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"Hi Michal, Just wanted to let you know that my husband, Ehud, and I met at one of the speed dating events May 1, 2011 at bar luna  on the upper west side. He proposed one year later at slightly Oliver (which was where bar luna was). We now live together on the uws with our 2 month old daughter, Ella. We thank you so much for having this event! !!" March 2014 NYC

Hi Michal
Thank you for inviting me to the Valentine's Day Speed dating event (Feb 13th) at Gilgamesh.
It was the best event by far, beautifully organised and in the most dreamy romantic room. I really enjoyed the night out, and the whole evening was so much fun. I am so pleased that I went and made some new friends.
It was lovely to go even for the social side of things! I went to other events for Valentine's Day but this one was absolutely perfect in every way!!

Sending you all the best, lots of love, A, London

"Michal and SpeedDating Staff,
I wanted to thank you for a lovely time last night in Tel Aviv at Loveat.  The location, participants, staff, and overall ambiance was top notch.  It is clear that this is truly your calling. I had the most wonderful time...thank you!  I want to nudge anyone who is hesitant to join, not to fret, as a fun night is guaranteed.  Anything beyond that is an extra reward :)  Looking forward to joining you again soon!"
Best,Gilat October 2012 

"Thanks for the great speed dating evening it was lots of fun!" Marc.

"Just wanted to extend a big thank you! I met the perfect girl who's kind, smart funny and beautiful and im about to go on my third date with her. I hope everyone who attends your events will be as lucky as i have been :)"

"The whole event was very professional and well organised. I would definitely come again and would recommend it to my single friends. You are delivering a much needed service in a good atmosphere and environment. Thank you." A.E.



 

Google News Article
October 2009  ISRAEL NEWS AGENCY / GOOGLE NEWS   
 
Jewish Speed Dating Queen Expands London, New York, Paris, Israel Operations
October 12 -----Tel Aviv ….Speed dating, a highly popular, formalized dating system whose purpose is to encourage people to meet a large number of new people traces its origins to Rabbi Yaacov Deyo of Aish HaTorah. The Rabbi has said it was originally created as a way to help Jewish singles meet and marry. Today, Michal Matityahu, a native of Tel Aviv is ensuring that Rabbi Deyo work is carried on and expanded.  
"I saw a need to bring Jewish singles together,” says Matityahu. “I understand the critical importance of bringing Jews together in the Diaspora, to create an environment where they would meet face to face." All of the speed dating events that Matityahu co-ordinates are secular. 
Matityahu has been working professionally in speed dating since 2003. In that time Matityahu, who has offices in New York, London, Manchester and Tel Aviv has been responsible for over 50 marriages and thousands of dates.
Matityahu says that speed dating which she describes as a fun night is rapidly growing and unique in that it's not a “meat market”, not in a contrived way. Events are held in up market, intimate venues and are held in a relaxed, classy and respectful atmosphere.
Speed dating entails where men and women are rotated to meet each other over a series of short "dates", usually lasting from 3 to 8 minutes depending on the organization running the event. At the end of each interval, the organizer rings a bell or clinks a glass to signal the participants to move on to the next date. At the end of the event participants submit online their choices of whom they want to share their contact information with. If there is a match, contact information is forwarded to both parties. Contact information can also be traded during the initial meeting, but in order to reduce pressure to accept or reject a suitor to his or her face, one enters their choices online.
“The ideal number to have at an event is about 25 people,” says Matityahu. “And making sure the female and male ratio is equal. It's important that people feel comfortable in what could be a life-changing event.” 
In Michal's experience, other speed dating events tend to be noisy and crowded, often without a sense of intimacy. She was keen to make her events different. One way is that she assures this it to limit the participants to 20-28 at any one evening. 
Each speed dating event is geared towards specific age groups and those group will range from 20 to 60 years. 
Outside of Israel, the Jewish participants tend to be professionals. 
In Israel where everyone is Jewish, she makes different speed dating events for conservative (traditional), vegetarians, pet lovers and different spiritual backgrounds. 
In New York, she was approached by the Jewish Community Center - JCC in Manhattan and is now planning a November 12 speed dating event for Russian speaking Jewish Americans.  
Born in Tel Aviv, Matityahu studied at the Beit Zvi acting school, spent 7 years in Haifa Theatre as an actress in many productions. She also served as an acting teacher in Norway, Italy, England and Israel. Although her mother tongue is Hebrew, she is also fluent in English and French. 
Matityahu served in the Israel Air Force where she learned much of her team work.  
She writes music and has played the piano from the age of six. Matityahu loves pop ambient soft rock. The Dearest Love. Alive. The 2 singles she has produced. 
She studied and directed in London at the Fringe Theatre.  
Matityahu is also responsible for Jewish matches – a one on one introduction service in London established in 2006. She sees possible matches and suggests suitable matches. 
Matityahu activities with singles are highly diverse. They also include creating singles holidays for Jews from England. The next vacation will take place departing from England to Eilat. The holiday is being sponsored in cooperation with Sabra Travel in London and Isrotel. The holiday talks place from this December. Information can be found at JHoliday.co.uk For Jews from England, France, and Israel.  
As Matityahu jumps from continent to continent, she observes several cultural distinctions in speed dating. In New York, Jewish people are not a minority. They're more open and active. They see it as part of who they are. New York Jews are more communicative. They have few if no reservations about going to a Jewish dating event. 
In London, the dating scene and how one communicates is far more conservative.  It took Matityahu much more time to develop speed dating in London. And as the Jewish community is relatively small, most of the events pass by word of mouth. But one can still find ads placed in the Jewish Chronicle, Jewish Telegraph and the JewPro web site.  
“The English may be a bit scared and apprehensive before the speed dating event, but come out of it communicative and happy. They feel more relaxed and happy. Even if they didn't find the person of their dreams, they've gone through an experience, and met new people, communicating with them in an intimate and relaxed way” says Matityahu. 
 “Israel is about 1-2 years behind New York and London when it relates to fashion and or cultural trends,” says Matityahu. 
“Feng Shui took about 24 months to arrive on the sands of Tel Aviv after it first appeared in London.” 
“When I first tried to start something in Israel, no one knew about it. Speed dating took quite a while. I had to explain to everyone what speed dating was before they would even consider it. They didn't have a clue as to what it is and how it works.” 
Matityahu says that drinks help people to relax. That it is not so much of the wine, beer or cocktails as it is having something to hold in your hand and place to your mouth. Oral fixations always reduce anxiety, for that reason we have cocktail parties. Most are not hungry, but eating or drinking something calms the spirit,” says Matityahu. 
 
 Matityahu has been featured on the BBC One Show and in a new film in the Jewish Film Festival which will come out in London’s Jewish film festival. 
What tips would you give to women and men going into speed dating? 
Come with an open mind. The dress code is smart casual, but wear what you feel attractive in. Can be jeans and a nice top, a nice dress. Even if you don’t meet the man or woman of your dreams, maybe you will meet someone you can be friends with. You never know how you will meet the right person, they can be friends of the new friend you just made. When you go on line afterwards, you can either choose a date or a friend. It’s good to enlarge the circle of acquaintances, come out and meet new people.
Tips: Listen and speak equally. Don't let the other one speak the whole time. Don't mention old baggage. Keep it light. Be creative. Avoid asking the same questions each time like: what do you do, where do you live, how old are you. Learn about the person; gather information by talking about other things and listening to their body language.  
Who are more selective, men or women? Women are. 
“People who attend these events are really interested in meeting a serious partner,” says Matityahu. “These events have an excellent reputation for meeting other like-minded individuals who are looking for long-term relationships and more” 
"In addition to our speed dating events, we have created a new Website named BeetleJooz.com that we're working on to put together Jewish people from around the world in various ways."
Matityahu says that in speed dating it takes around 30 seconds for a first impression to be made. The 6 minutes which follow only serve to reinforce those feelings. It’s a good way of deciding whether you want to meet this person again for a whole evening.
Before and after the speed dating event there is a break. The break also serves to connect with those whose first impression was positive.
A 2005 study at the University of Pennsylvania of multiple speed dating events found that most people made their choices within the first three seconds of meeting. Furthermore, issues such as religion, previous marriages, and smoking habits were found to play much less of a role than expected.
A 2006 study in Edinburgh, Scotland showed that 45% of the women participants in a speed-dating event and 22% of the men had come to a decision within the first 30 seconds. It also found that dialogue concerning travel resulted in more matches than dialogue about films.
Matityahu has and continues to coach people on effective dating tactics through the use of acting basics.
She provides the following tips for women who are about to enter a speed dating event: be open – do not use body arm blocks (crossing your arms against your chest), show and touch their hair, make prolonged eye contact, never look down, be approachable be perfumed and most importantly – smile.  
For men – do not be rude. Do not use any suggestive remarks on the first date, be a respectful gentleman, well groomed and show interest in the women's mind.  When the men lean forward it shows that they pay attention to the women. When a man listens well it means that he can show attention to details.
For both sexes on the first speed date - don't talk politics. Don't remark on the last date you encountered on a speed date. Good topics – music, travel, movies and food.  If you have a passion about something, show it. Clothing labels and brands are not important. Judge the person by their personality, intelligence and ability to share.
Use their name.  Like in an acting audition, be original. You want to be remembered. Bring something new, fun and interesting to the table – such as an event or exhibition that you have recently enjoyed – have an anchor. 
Matityahu says that people have dated immediately after the first speed date. 
As for online dating sites such as JDate,  Matityahu says that people can spend months chatting just on the basis of a photo. It's not realistic, she says.
"In speed dating, there is no time wasting. What you see is what you can be getting."  
The Jewish speed queen states that New York is not London and London is definitely not Tel Aviv.
"These cultures are very different and so are the means of communication and values that one brings to the date. For example, privacy is very important in London, less in New York. Persistence is seen as an asset in Israel where the man proves that he is serious, in London that same persistence could wind up in a harassment charge."
Matityahu says that the greatest assets about speed dating are that people meet in safe and supervised environment. 
Smoking is not allowed in any of her speed dating events. 
Matityahu's speed dating events in the UK occur twice a week on Thursdays and Sundays.
In New York, her speed dating events are held every Sunday and two Wednesdays a month.
In Tel Aviv speed dating events take place every Tuesday.  
More information on time and dates can be found at: 
http://www.thespeeddating.co.uk
http://www.thespeeddating.us
http://www.thespeeddating.co.il
http://www.thespeeddating.fr
http://thespeeddating.blogspot.com/ 
http://twitter.com/Jewishspeeddate 
Matityahu's speed dating events expansion plans includes franchises in Jerusalem, Haifa, Leeds, Miami, Los Angeles, San Diego, Chicago, Philadelphia, Seattle, Brooklyn, New Jersey, Hamptons. Washington DC, Phoenix, Toronto, Montreal and Paris.
Matityahu concludes with this final advice: "Each heart has its own key. Use a warm smile and friendly eye contact to find it."